by: Mike Vernace
The most overwhelmingly obvious thing for me to note about my career is that I’ve had the absolute best support system rooting for me.
When you have this backbone supporting you, it makes it quite a bit easier to “go all-in” on yourself. To make choices that some might think aren’t going to be successful, but you know that you have the strength of 10–20–30 of your closest friends / family cheering for you so strongly that it gives you so much inspiration that you act in a matter of strength you didn’t know you had. Given to you by them.
What’s actually amazing is that, I think people know this. But then they forget to acknowledge it.
People want to support you. People want to help.
So why wouldn’t you accept it?
It comes down to humility. You believe that you know better than all of the people around trying to offer a hand and to lend advice.
You know what, maybe you do know better. Maybe you’ve educated yourself enough in these areas and you know what you’re doing.
So what? You can’t be thankful that people want to be helpful?
Let it be known that there are actually good people in this world that will actually give good advice for free, that really do just want to see you succeed, that do care for you up front without asking anything in return. And if they are benefitting from it in some way, honestly, what’s the big deal anyways? Advice is advice. You always have the option of making your own choices. It’s up to you to decide what to think. They are just pointing things out. Use that!
Stop for a second and ask yourself: Have I been offered help, only to think to myself, “Yeah whatever, I know what I need to do.”
Ok, maybe you do know what you need to do. And?
You can’t be grateful to this person, who’s willing to offer advice? To at least listen to it? There’s an opportunity for growth in so many ways. You might actually learn something new. You might see something differently.
Or, more importantly, you might actually feel the love that they are trying to give you.
Notice now that this message is important for everyone, but somehow you’re starting to think about it and say, “Is this me?”
Maybe. Maybe not. The only person that really knows that answer is you, if you’re totally honest with yourself.